What Identity means to me

Kelly O’Neill

English 1100
September 2, 2015

Prof. Young

Identity is defined as having distinct characteristics that express who you are as a unique individual, as well as the perception you give to others. To me, having an identity is very important because it shows who you are, where you are from, what your influences are and what makes you different from everyone else. In order to be your own person and to be an individual, you must have an identity. However, some people are afraid to express who they really are because they are afraid of being judged. It isn’t always easy, but it’s really important to be true to oneself. The world consists of many different people and if everyone were the same life would be pretty boring. I try very hard to say true to my identity and will not change myself, for anyone. To some people, I may come across as shy, but in reality, I am far from that. I value a lot of things, but one of the most important is my morals’. I have strong values and ideals about a lot of things and if I were to cross them I would be so disappointed in myself. Four of the most important qualities that I strive for and define me are: honesty, kindness, hard working and happy. In order to build relationships with anyone, I feel that you need to be trustworthy.  I try to put myself in other people’s shoes and to always choose kindness.  I think it is small minded to put other people down to make oneself look better. I believe is important to make an effort in everything that you do no matter how big or how small. Finally, one of the largest qualities that help define who I am is that I strive to be happy.  I try to appreciate the simple things and all of the experiences I’m so lucky to have.  

My culture also plays a role in my identity. Culture is a way of life of a group of people. It is based off behaviors, values and symbols that they accept. Generally, they are passed down from generation to generation. I learned these values that make up my identity, from my Mom. She taught me right from wrong, manners, how to treat people, how to laugh and enjoy life and how important it is to have work ethic and appreciate the people and opportunities around me. She helped shape me into the person I am and I am extremely thankful for that. I am the generations of my family that has gone before me. My identity is who I am and without it, no one would know me for me. "So if you really want to hurt me, talk badly about my language." (260)